Communication isn’t just a walk-over, it is a means of connecting with another person. This infers that this connection that you generate, allows you access to the other person. Without appropriate connection, effective communication cannot take place. It is an act of intercourse with another, by the use of words, which enables each person to be seen, heard, and ultimately accessed without barriers. Effective communication cannot exist without the tools necessary to unlock it and that is what this article focuses on.
Below are the tools expedient for an effective communication
Effective Communication Requires Connection
From the explanation above, you will find that connection is a primary tool that you must strive for in any form of communication. It might surprise you how connection promotes communication. Interestingly, Salutation is one of those keys expedient for connection. Salutation is a means for communicating well wishes, or concerns and this is why it must be done in a way that it fulfills its purpose. Unfortunately, it has become a means of social gratification, therefore, eroding it of its value and sense of presence.
To debunk a popular myth as it relates to salutation: salutation is not an indication of respect that a person garners. It is neither a representation of a person’s worth, as often believed. Given the existence of this myth, salutation is often misused as a tool to fill a vacuum in a person.
That said, salutation could be a tool for connecting deeply with another, if utilized in the appropriate manner.
How can salutation be utilized appropriately?
When you understand fully the purpose for salutations, you would understand that it is not an esteem-check tool. Rather, it is a means of connection. As with any other form of communication, salutation requires:
- Paying attention to the other person.
- Understanding the other person’s state of being.
When you listen and pay attention to the other person, without seeking for gratification, you understand where they are at, at that point in their life. It means that you get to connect with them from their place of status, rather than, from your place of expectation. A person’s state of being is often at the bedrock of connection. And using salutation, one must recognize the other’s state of being. When you consider those, you will be free from demanding from another, what they cannot give. This will also eliminate any form of ‘fulfilling-all-righteousness’ role as expected.
Also your target of communication is at peace knowing that the totality of their being is taken into account and that they are not being exploited. This fosters a better form of communication between both persons.
Trust enables intimacy which then leads to communication. For a person to have access to another on a profound level, there must exist a level of trust. When trust is in place, communication is bar-free, and this creates new pathways for both to chart the course of communication. For another to repose trust in you, they need to make certain that their genuine feelings are not being relegated. When this happens, it leads them to open up like a new leaf.
However, when you neglect the trust factor, your target of communication folds up and only provide you with fill-in-the-gap information: something that they sense you want to hear. This automatically militates against effective communication.
You see, when you build a wall that prevents another from opening up- which is often the result you get when you attempt to exploit another, it defeats the whole purpose of communication. Moreover, fosters frustration between you and the person you are in communication with. People need channels to make genuine connection. They need to understand that they are being heard and not having words dumped on them. Trust indeed promotes effective communication.
This is entrenched in your ability to see others for who they are and being able to empathize with them. Respect is something every human being deserves; a human edifice for the propagation of humanity. It knows no class, status or race. Denying another the respect due to them is synonymous to creating a wall between yourself and your target. And this hinders any form of genuine connection you can make with another person. This is because it is in this connection that communication lies.
It is important to note that respect prepares a ground for effective communication. It helps your target to receive your presence. While it also communicates to the person that you fully see and appreciate them for whom they are. In essence, it enables you relate with them from a place of acknowledgement.
Too often, respect is confused for idolatry. Idolatry demands that the other gives up who they are for the reverence of another. While respect attracts another to fall in line for your sake. Either ways, respect is an unavoidable tool, effective for communication.
Have you ever seen one have a meaningful communication with another? It is someone who connects deeply with the other as it requires and is willing to give up their self-serving desires for the well-being and growth of their target. Also, for the success of their communication. This will foster a dependable and respectful relationship between the parties involved.
As mentioned earlier, i iterate: communication is not a walk-over. You need to do what is required to get to that height of connection you desire with another. More so, it requires honesty, transparency and grit. Practicing it efficiently can improve the quality of your relationship with others.